Don’t Become a Victim of Your Environment! Stop Duplicating Poor Performances!
Have you ever noticed that people who complain a lot tend to run in packs; or that people who tend to struggle when it comes to achievement often are part of the same group? Then you probably are also aware of the fact that people who are successful tend to associate with other successful people. There is a common saying among the successful: You will typically become the average of the five people you spend the most time around. If you observe the world around you, you will find that this is true.
Maybe you have asked yourself why it seems that you can’t get beyond a certain point, or maybe you feel stuck at a particular point in life. You may even be on the brink of giving up. Don’t do it. Don’t you dare quit. Let me tell you, my life does not resemble anything close to what it looked like when I began this journey. What you are going through now is not an indicator of where you will end up; it only represents where you started.
If I would have allowed my beginning to define me, you would be somewhere else looking for inspiration, but thankfully I did not. So, hello!
One thing that you must do is ensure that you don’t become a victim of your environment or your circumstances. What I mean by this is that many of us inherited less than favorable circumstances right out of the gate. Some were born into poverty. Others were born into dysfunctional and abusive families. Some of us were born into families that were full of poor performers. When you are surrounded by poor performers who have developed low expectations, it can be easy to develop and accept those same low expectations. After all, there is no one there modeling the exceptional and extraordinary capabilities that we are all born with.
There is a father who works all day for low wages and complains about barely getting by. Maybe there is a mother who once had dreams of owning her own beauty salon or being an onstage actress, who now lulls around the house doing everything not to upset the father who is constantly complaining. Add in the uncle who only stops by when he needs to borrow money, which is all the time since he doesn’t have any meaningful source of income.
Unfortunately, far too many children find themselves in this type of situation, but I am here to tell you that this does not have to be the end of your story. At any point in your life, you can make a decision to be someone different — to do something phenomenal. But, you have to stop practices poor behaviors that lead to poor performances. In other words, you cannot emulate the behaviors of those in your inherent circle (i.e. family, friends, and peers). You have to find those who are doing what you desire to do. You have to effectively raise your standard.
You have to be yourself. One thing I absolutely love about my life is that I get to wake up every day and be me. I get to live life to its fullest while loving myself. You can do the same.
While people say “in life, there are no guarantees,” I disagree. There is one thing I can definitely guarantee you. If you keep doing the same things, you will continue to get the same results. If you want something different, you are going to have to be willing to change your thinking, your speech, and your rituals. Start by smiling as often as you think about it. I know it seems awkward and odd; that is because you have been walking around with a frown on your face for so long, the thought of presenting a consistent smile feels weird. Well, it is time to get out of that. Even if you don’t feel like it, smile.
Speak kindly of yourself. I cannot stress the importance of guarding your self-talk. You have to see your brain as the most powerful supercomputer in the world. Now, your self-talk will be the program that this powerful supercomputer will run. If you are constantly speaking negative words about yourself, your brain will find every possible reason for you to remain negative.
Success leaves patterns. In other words, people who are successful did not get there by accident. There are certain principles and behaviors that they practice constantly. Find five people who you consider to be successful and then observe them. Look for common areas of speech, ideas, behaviors, and habits. Remember, you are what you do habitually. As you observe these successful people, you will learn that there are some common elements that you can implement in your life that will facilitate the change you need.
Finally, focus on your areas of strength. Find out what you are naturally good at. This will point you to your gift — one of the most powerful forces in the universe. While it is important to improve your weaknesses, operating in your strengths will feed your passion, invigorate your efforts, and sustain your commitment. You should not only be successful, but you should also love what you are doing. I invite you to become a version of yourself that refuses to be a victim and refuses to be held back. Life is a beautiful thing when you decide to live it instead of simply survive it.